July 7, 2026
This resource is personal. It dives into our story of marriage struggle and redemption to show that God can take the broken pieces of a shattered relationship and restore them.
When I wrote it, my desire was to capture the truths God revealed to me, stubborn and slow as I was to receive them. I believe these truths can help a marriage that is on the verge of death.
Death. That’s a pretty dramatic word, isn’t it? But yes, in many ways, death is exactly what divorce is like.
The marriage covenant is a union where two people become one. I don’t mean one in a metaphysical sense, but I do mean a union so intimate that husband and wife become deeply intertwined. If you split a body in half, it dies. In much the same way, divorce tears apart something God intended to live as one.
The enemy likes to trick us by showing us a rose-filled picture of what life would look like on the other side of the life we built with another person. Before you think it, let me be clear: I am not saying there are never biblical grounds for divorce. Physical abuse, emotional abuse, and adultery are all serious violations of the marriage covenant and establish legitimate biblical grounds for ending a marriage.
The problem I see is that separation is often no longer tied to those things. More often, husbands and wives simply stop liking each other. They get bored. They drift apart. They begin to believe a different life or a different person will make them happy. Our culture feeds this mindset. It normalizes separation and even celebrates divorce. That is tragic.
For most people, life is not better on the other side of divorce. The likelihood of finding lasting happiness with someone else is much smaller than people imagine. Why? Because divorce never deals with the underlying problem. The real problem is that we are hopelessly trapped in our own pride and sin, and only God can rescue us from that pit.
That doesn’t even begin to address what happens when children are involved. The impact of divorce on kids can be devastating. I have watched people convince themselves that the struggles their children are experiencing have nothing to do with the death of their parents’ marriage. I have also seen the social consequences. Friendships change. Communities become awkward. People often lose relationships they spent years building. Divorce rarely affects only two people.
Divorce is destructive. Do not let the enemy convince you it isn’t a big deal. It is a huge deal, and it will shape your life in ways you cannot fully foresee.
There is a better path. There is the path of restoration.
You loved your spouse once. By God’s grace, you can love them again. Stop letting the world tell you there is no hope. There is always hope for those who are willing to surrender to God, seek His face, and live His way.
How can I be this committed to marriage?
Because Jesus never gave up on me.
Every time I wrestle with the question of divorce, I keep coming back to the example of Jesus. He was despised, rejected, and crucified because we chose ourselves over Him. But He did not give up. He went all the way to the cross. He died so that we might live.
This is our example.
Are you willing to die to yourself so that your marriage might live?
If your marriage is in crisis, this resource is for you.